Knowing your rights to custody and how you can share parental responsibilities with your ex is important when you’re deciding on a custody plan during divorce. One of the things you may be asked to create is called a time-sharing schedule. This schedule is important to everyone involved, your child, you and your ex, because it defines when you’ll see your child and when your child sees you. Many judges will want the time to be split equitably, so your child sees both you and your ex at regular intervals.
The thing you need to know about the time-sharing schedule is that if you can’t decide on it, a judge will make that decision for you. In many cases, if you can work out a time-sharing schedule with your ex that works for both of you, it could be better than what a court would decide on.
When you develop the schedule, you’ll need to consider many things. Which holidays do you want to have with your child? Do you want to switch holidays each year? Can your child choose who to spend time with at any point, or are they young enough not to have a say in that decision? Who will have custody during the school year, and will visitation be equally split or restricted?
There are many ways to look at the schedule, but to start with, deciding where the child goes for holidays or during the school year is a good plan. From there, it’s easier to make decisions about your child’s extra activities and how both you and your ex-spouse can be involved in your child’s life.
Source: Women’s Law, “Custody,” accessed June 11, 2015